How to use a strap-on

If you’ve ever wondered what it could be like to penetrate your partner sexually? a strap-on dildo could be just what you have been dreaming about!

What is a strap-on?

Let’s begin by looking at what a strap-on is for those who may not be 100% sure.

A strap-on dildo, also known as a Strap on or Strap is a dildo specially designed to go into a harness which allows you to penetrate your partner or have your partner penetrate you. The penetration can be vaginal or anal depending on your mood or desire. The harness holds the strap on dildo in place against the wearers body. 

The strap-on Jock harness for dildos

The strap-on harness, as the name suggests, is a harness that is worn like underwear and into which a dildo can be inserted. The harness has a front fabric pounch and straps on the side through which the wearers legs go. These can be udjusted to size of the wearer, the front pouch and the O ring allow for the dildo to become to some extent one with your body. Any harness normally has an O ring, this elastic circle will hold the dildo in place, this is normally a tight elastic ring which can stretch to allow a variety of dildo sizes to remain in place in the underwear or harness.  are wearing the harness and have inserted the dildo through Nowyou are ready to have some fun.

The advantage of the strap-on harness is that you are able to move along with your partners movements and not have to be holding a dildo in place, the harness does this for you , it becomes an extension of the wearers body and should feel  like  a solid fit against your body giving you more flexibility when you are thrusting and penetrating your partner. A Jock Hanress also allows for a wide range of sizes so in the heat of the moment the Jock Harness can be worn by the other partner as the Jock harness is adaptable to a large range of sizes

on the downside ; a  Jock strap-on harness can take a little longer to get set up which could take some of the sexual heat away

 However don’t fret. Once you have practiced wearing a Jock strap-on harness a few times you will be able to get going a lot quicker and feel more comfortable the more you wear it. Want a easier set in model, those also exist in the Strap-on Underwear style

Strap-on harness underwear style

The other popular strap-on harness is the underwear style which as the name suggests is just like a regular piece of underwear except that it has a hole, called an O ring that allows you to insert a sex toy like a dildo.

The advantage of the underwear-style strap-on is that it’s quicker and easier to put on and might give you more of a sensual feeling like wearing sexy , cool underwear.

The possible downside of the underwear-style strap-on is that you may not get quite the same level of control with the dildo as you would if you wear a jock harness.

The best thing to do is try them both. They are different and will fit different moods. You and/or your partner may prefer one over the other. So go ahead, experiment and see what gets both of your juices flowing!

Okay, so now we know what a strap-on dildo and a Strap on harness is. Let's move on to some tips on how to get the most from your strap-on harness or underwear.

Practice practice practice and get used to wearing your strap-on and dildo

This is probably one of the most important aspects of strap-on play. Before you use a strap-on with your partner, spend time with it on your own. Get used to putting it on in a way that’s smooth and sexy.

Nothing will break the sexual tension like you fumbling around with a harness while your partner nervously waits for you to get ready.

Instead, put your strap-on harness on sexily and with complete confidence. This will no doubt heighten the sexual pleasure for both of you.

Once you have mastered putting on your strap-on harness you should spend time wearing it.

Walk around your apartment or house with your strap-on harness and dildo attached to get used to the feeling of having a insertable attached to your body.

The more you get used to the strap-on, the better you will be and the more confident you will feel.

Masturbate with your strap-on dildo to get familiar with how it feels to be penetrated by it

Another tip is to masturbate with your strap-on dildo of choice and learn how it feels to penetrate your vagina and/or your anus, if you like or allow penetration of course.

This will create a form of muscle memory that will help you remember the sensation from when you penetrated yourself as you are penetrating your partner.

This way, You’ll have a better idea of the sensation of being penetrated by the dildo and so have a better idea of what your partner could be experiencing.

Make a night of choosing a strap-on with your partner

We all know that a lot of our sexual pleasure is connected to our minds and our moods. What can be great fun is to make a night of it.

Get yourself a pizza, get comfortable and look for strap-ons and dildos that excite the both of you.

Choose them together. You’ll both have the excitement of waiting for your strap-on and dildo sex toy to arrive.

Doing it this way makes it a joint venture and something you both participated in.

When the strap-on and dildo(s) arrive you are both super excited and can’t wait to penetrate and be penetrated. Consent is sexy, make sure your partner(s) want to be on the giving or receiving end. 

Don’t forget the lube. Lube is your friend!

You’ve no doubt had this drilled into your mind so many times yet it’s so crucial that it’s always worth adding a little reminder.

The more lube you have the better, and to be sure we’re speaking the same language, we’re talking about lubrication.

The last thing you need when you’re hot and lusting is dryness and discomfort, ouch. So make sure you have plenty of lube on hand.

When choosing your lube do remember to make sure that it’s compatible with your dildo of choice. Silicone-based lubes could degrade silicone toys and oil-based lube could damage latex, for example, latex condoms. As a general rule of thumb, water-based lubes tend to be a good way to go.

How to use a strap-on

Now that we have the basics out of the way let’s look at how you use a strap-on for maximum enjoyment and excitement.

First of all, no need to be nervous. It’s pretty intuitive as sex should be, and of course we all need consent so everybody needs to be on board with what is happening and about to happen.

If you have followed the tips above you should already be practiced in putting your strap-on Jock harness or strap-on underwear on and feel comfortable with a dildo attached to your body.

Feel free to play, this is so important, there is no right or wrong way.

It’s up to you and your partner to experiment and see what works. The three most common sexual positions you could try with your strap-on.

Missionary position, you on top, partner below

The first position you can try is classic missionary where your partner is lying on their back and you are on top penetrating them. In this style, your partner is mainly passive and you are doing the ‘work’ as it is. It has a nice dominant/dominated feeling.

Partner on top, you on your back below

Next, you can lay on your back with the dildo in the strap-on harness and your partner can climb on top and ride the dildo while you play with their breasts and caress them.

Your hands will be free to caress their body! The beauty of this position is that your partner can move around and use the dildo in a way that stimulates their G-spot. With this style, you are more passive and they is doing the work. This can be the most intimate out of the three.

Doggy style, partner in front, you behind

This is a classic position and allows you a great view of their behind and there’s something quite exciting about penetrating your partner this way, whether in their vagina or anus.

These are of course just a few tips, there are plenty of styles, plenty of strap-ons and plenty of dildos to choose from. There’s no right or wrong, just what works for you and your partner!