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Let's talk about bathrooms. First, apologies dear readers if I seem exasperated, I am. This blog should be summarized in one sentence: just let other people pee and mind your own business. Unfortunately, the world is not nice, and certain people currently can't access the most basic of human dignities, so here we are.

Hey, family! We know this time of year should be merry and gay, so we’re coming to you with our Holiday Gift Guide. Need a little help finding the perfect sex toy for you or your partner? Looking to expand your collection, or simply making your first purchase? We got you babe! Now, go ahead and relax as we present to you the cheeriest and brightest of them all. And by all means, take your time, don’t be shy, and make sure to check your list twice!

Labels are great when they help us form a congruent sense of self, discover our preferences, or communicate to others. But labels also have a tendency to reinforce binaries and create inflexible pigeonhole identities. One of the binaries I want to challenge is the top-butch, bottom-femme correlation we still see prominently in the queer community.

Tentatively Accepting My Bisexuality Part Three Buckle up, the story about my queerness is about to get more complicated.

Tentatively Accepting My Bisexuality Part Two Buckle up, the story about my queerness is about to get more complicated.

Tentatively Accepting My Bisexuality Katy Perry's "I kissed a girl" was blasting on all the radio stations when I first considered I might be queer. At the time, I also had a boyfriend and a couple fuck buddies. I didn't love having sex with any of them, but was drunk on the power of being desired. I expressed megalomaniacal contrarian teen beliefs, "monogamy is unnatural" and "women are just objectively hotter than men," not realizing polyamorous or queer folks existed. I believed I was just alternative and knew better than everyone else, in the way sixteen year olds often do.

Lesbians Companies vs Rainbow Capitalism If you're openly lesbian, queer or gay, you've probably bought something with a rainbow on it at some point in your life. It can be exciting and validating to see stores carry goods meant for the LGBTQIA2S+ community. But who is behind the rainbow?

Queer Sex 101 I was asked to write a blog on queer sex 101. I initially wrote about barriers, lube, toys, and  tribbing. Then I deleted everything. Sex education has long been dominated by a sterilized heteronormative anatomical perspective that only focuses on abstinence, pregnancy, disease, and penetration. While those are aspects of sex, it’s missing the bigger point: pleasure. Even as we've moved towards more sex-positive education in the last decade, we still replicate this ideology by focusing primarily on the mechanics of sex. Understanding function doesn't equate to good sex. Queer sex is an art, not a recipe. So today, I present to you the fundamentals of pleasure rather than the mechanics of sex:

Ik werd gevraagd om een blog te schrijven over queer sex 101. Ik schreef aanvankelijk over barrières, glijmiddel, speelgoed en tribbing. Toen heb ik alles verwijderd. Seksuele voorlichting werd lange tijd gedomineerd door een gesteriliseerd hetero normatief anatomisch perspectief dat zich alleen richt op onthouding, zwangerschap, ziekte en penetratie. Hoewel dat aspecten van seks zijn, mist het het grotere punt: plezier. Ook al zijn we de afgelopen tien jaar in de richting van meer seksepositieve voorlichting gegaan, we repliceren deze ideologie nog steeds door ons primair te richten op de mechanica van seks. Het begrijpen van de functie staat niet gelijk aan goede seks. Queer sex is een kunst, geen recept. Dus vandaag presenteer ik je de grondbeginselen van plezier in plaats van de mechanica van seks:

June is finally here, and that means it’s time to celebrate pride month! In the United States, we use this month to commemorate the 1969 Stonewall Riots, a trans-led uprising against police raids of gay bars in New York City. Prominent figures of the Stonewall Riots include trans rights and gay liberation activists Sylvia Rivera and Marsha P. Johnson, who participated in the riots and devoted their lives to uplifting the LGBTQ+ community.