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Labels are great when they help us form a congruent sense of self, discover our preferences, or communicate to others. But labels also have a tendency to reinforce binaries and create inflexible pigeonhole identities. One of the binaries I want to challenge is the top-butch, bottom-femme correlation we still see prominently in the queer community.

Tentatively Accepting My Bisexuality Part Three Buckle up, the story about my queerness is about to get more complicated.

Tentatively Accepting My Bisexuality Part Two Buckle up, the story about my queerness is about to get more complicated.

Tentatively Accepting My Bisexuality Katy Perry's "I kissed a girl" was blasting on all the radio stations when I first considered I might be queer. At the time, I also had a boyfriend and a couple fuck buddies. I didn't love having sex with any of them, but was drunk on the power of being desired. I expressed megalomaniacal contrarian teen beliefs, "monogamy is unnatural" and "women are just objectively hotter than men," not realizing polyamorous or queer folks existed. I believed I was just alternative and knew better than everyone else, in the way sixteen year olds often do.

Lesbians Companies vs Rainbow Capitalism If you're openly lesbian, queer or gay, you've probably bought something with a rainbow on it at some point in your life. It can be exciting and validating to see stores carry goods meant for the LGBTQIA2S+ community. But who is behind the rainbow?

Queer Sex 101 I was asked to write a blog on queer sex 101. I initially wrote about barriers, lube, toys, and  tribbing. Then I deleted everything. Sex education has long been dominated by a sterilized heteronormative anatomical perspective that only focuses on abstinence, pregnancy, disease, and penetration. While those are aspects of sex, it’s missing the bigger point: pleasure. Even as we've moved towards more sex-positive education in the last decade, we still replicate this ideology by focusing primarily on the mechanics of sex. Understanding function doesn't equate to good sex. Queer sex is an art, not a recipe. So today, I present to you the fundamentals of pleasure rather than the mechanics of sex:

PRIDE INSIDE (HER) 

Over 280 cities around the world have either postponed or outright canceled Pride 2020 celebrations in response to the Covid-19 pandemic. This is undoubtedly the right call for public health, as Pride Fest has never been a “socially distant” affair. If anything, it’s the opposite; Pride is a celebration of bodies, sexuality, gender expression, and community all wrapped up in one sweaty, crowded, dancing parade. We love it, and like many in the LGBTQ community, we look forward to Pride Month all year long.

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