Welcome to your personal guide to how to use an ejaculating strap on. In this article you will learn everything you wanted to know but were too afraid to ask about this explosive addition to the dildo or strap on family. Cum on, let’s get to it.
What is an ejaculating strap on?
We’re so glad you asked. AKA an ejaculating dildo or squirting dildo, this category of sex toys includes dildos that look and work just like regular dildos…except, they can ejaculate, too. An ejaculating dildo can be filled with a liquid via a tube that runs through the shaft plus a little syringe-like component that allows the dildo user to simulate ejaculation. They’re a lot of fun whether for solo or partner play, and most are compatible with harnesses.
Before we get more technical, here are some reasons you might want to try an ejaculating strap on:
- You like cum, but don’t want a baby. (Interestingly enough, these ejaculating dildos were originally designed for couples using an at-home insemination process.)
- You or your partner don’t have a penis but want the full ejaculation experience.
- You or your partner has ED but want the joys jizzing.
- You are curious about cumming.
Squirting dildos: Know your options
The good news is that there are many options out there when it comes to the world of ejaculating dildos. We’re here to spill the tea on this type of sex toy so you can have fun with a little liquid lovin’. Of course, all sex toys come with their own set of instructions (which you should read and heed), but here’s a roundup of things to know and keep in mind in terms of squirting dildo options.
The sexy syringe
The most common type of squirting dildo gets pumped full of a cum-type liquid using a syringe. They are easy to fill and easy to empty – just squeeze the syringe at your moment of climax. It’s also easy to control the flow based on how hard you squeeze.
The cum pump
Less common and a touch more complicated: Pump-filled dildos feature a pump in the shaft of the ejaculating dildo. The pump creates a vacuum that sucks up the liquid from the tip of the shaft or head of the dildo into the shaft itself. To release, you need to apply pressure to the pump, which is sometimes located in the “balls,” giving the experience some extra realism.
The randy remote
Remote or electrical squirters allow you to jizz at the touch of a button. These tend to be more expensive than manual versions and can be prone to a little more malfunction. But if you want an ejaculating dildo that goes the literal distance…this may be the style for you.
Get your fill
So how do you get that jizz flowing? The first step when it comes to how to use an ejaculating strap on is figuring out what to fill it with. Now, you really have your choice, but there are some rules to keep you and your partner safe and comfortable when using a squirting dildo.
Dil-Dos
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Use lube. Opt for a water-based lube for easy cleaning. Oily lubes are harder to clean and may leave some residue that can gunk up your dildo over time.
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Sub in. Consider a cum substitute designed specifically for this purpose. In general these should be mixed with water first.
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Drink up. A rule you can consider: If you can drink it, you can probably use it for your ejaculating dildo. That said, drinks with too much sugar can get syrupy when they dry out, making it very difficult to clean them out. Always always always make sure that whatever liquid you are using is safe for the area you are aiming to cum on or into.
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The real deal. You could use or repurpose actual cum, but you’ll want to make sure it’s very fresh. Ditto for pee.
- DIY options. The internet is awash with custom cum recipes for use with sex toys…but again, make sure the recipe is safe for you. Some are really only safe for the mouth, rather than for other bodily orifices.
Dil-Don’ts
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Don’t use alcohol in your ejaculating dildo, especially for any anal play. Take a second to consider how uncomfortable that would be.
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Don't use anything other than a liquid. That means nothing thicker than chocolate syrup.
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Don’t use anything too hot. Temperature play can be sexy, but beware. Do not use liquids that are boiling…or near boiling. If you can see steam rising, that’s too hot for any of your holes.
How to have fun with your squirting dildo
By this point you probably have your own cum fantasies to fulfill…but in case you need further inspo for some creamy dreamy fun, here are some ideas for how to use an ejaculating strap on.
Real-feel oral
Put it in your mouth…or in your partner’s mouth. The bonus here is that you can tailor your cum recipe to your taste.
Role play
A squirting dildo is perfect for switching roles and flipping your usual script. Anyone can take charge.
Double penetration
Cumming can be a two-way street…if you have a pair of squirting dildos. You can find a lot of different fulfilling angles this way.
A final PSA: Keep your ejaculating dildo clean
Once the fun is done, it’s time to clean up. Do not use dish soap or body wash on your sex toys. Use warm water and sex toy wash and perhaps a pipe cleaner to make sure you clean out the inside of your dildo and its tubing. The goal? Zero residue. Here’s the step by step:
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Suck up some warm soapy water, let it sit, and squirt it out.
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Use a pipe cleaner to get any gunk out of the tube.
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Flush the tube with warm water again.
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Turn your dildo upside down to ensure that no liquid is left inside.
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Once dry, store it someplace cool and dry so it’s ready for your next play sesh.
