They're perfect for lesbian couples and trans couples, and they can also be a fun addition to your sex life if you're new to using feminine sex toys. Strap-on sex is a great way to explore different sexual activities. However, if it's your first time, there are a few things you need to know. Don't worry! Wet For Her is here to help. Below are some tips for first-time strap-on sex. So put on your harness, grab your dildo, and prepare for a sexy time!
1. How to Choose the Right Strap-On? The first thing you'll need to consider when choosing a strap-on is its size. As a general rule, the larger the toy, the more versatile it will be. However, if you're new to using strap-ons, we recommend starting with a smaller size. Another thing to consider is the type of harness you want. There are two main types: underwear harness style and jock style. The underwear style is more comfortable and less visible, but it may not be as stable as the jock style.
2. How to Prepare Your Strap-on for Use Now that you have your strap-on, it's time to prepare it for use. This involves attaching the dildo to the harness. There are a few things to consider when choosing the right dildo:
- The size — Make sure to pick a dildo that's the right size for you or your partner. You don't want it to be too big or too small. Check your size with the number of fingers that are stimulating but not uncomfortable and use our size guide to choose your dildo.
- The shape — The shape and texture of your dildo can help hit certain spots that feel good.
- The material — Dildos come in various materials, so experiment a bit to find one that feels good on you. Once you've chosen the right dildo, it's time to attach it to the harness. The process will vary depending on the brand and harness style. However, most strap-ons have a clip or o-ring system that allows you to swap out various dildos easily.
3. Different Positions for Enjoying Strap-on Sex When experimenting with different sex toy positions, remember that strap-on sex is different from normal sex. To ensure that you and your partner are comfortable, starting with the missionary position is a great idea. That way, you can get a feel for the toy and become accustomed to the sensation of thrusting before you move on to more exciting positions. Doggy style is a perfect position to add excitement and pleasure if you are looking for something more interesting. This position gives you complete control over the speed and depth of penetration. Other options available include cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, and spooning. When it comes to the world of strap-on sex, there is a lot to explore. Don’t be afraid to experiment.
4. How to reduce discomfort Before you get started with strap-on sex, it's a good idea to talk about discomfort. Different people have various pleasure tolerances, and ensuring both partners have a comfortable experience is essential. A great way to avoid the discomfort for both partners is to use a Bumpher strapon dildo base cushion which is not only comfortable but provides sensual stimulation to the wearer during strapon sex. When it comes to discomfort, lube can do wonders. We always recommend using a water-based lube. Ensure to get a lube designed for couples who use sex toys. Your lubricant should also be safe to use in the body, so you don't have to worry about experiencing side effects. Another tip is to start slow and shallowly before going deeper, or even better, to orgasm before penetration to loosen up the vagina or anus. Remember, you can always add more lube if needed! If you or your partner experiences discomfort during penetration, stop and reevaluate the situation.
5. Strap-on Aftercare Aftercare is integral to any sex session, whether it's your first time or not. If you're using a dildo with a base or flange, clean it properly and remove any body fluids that may have transferred onto the toy. It's also essential to remove the harness or strap-on and change clothes that may have been involved during play. This is important, particularly if you've been sweating. Remember that your harness and clothes can be covered in bacteria that could cause skin irritation. Shop Quality Strap-ons from WetforHer The above tips will help you enjoy your first strap-on sex experience.
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