USING A VIBRATOR DURING SEX: TIPS AND TECHNIQUES FOR LESBIAN COUPLES
When it comes to sex, pleasure is the measure. And using a vibrator during sex can up the ante on pleasure, doing things people just can’t! We can’t vibrate, we can’t pulse, and we can’t always reach where we need to, or want to, reach.
For lesbian couples, using a vibrator or other toys during sex can intensify sensation and deepen relationships, bringing brand new opportunities for pleasure, fun and bonding.
But how do you introduce a vibrator during sex? How do you integrate it into your sexual repertoire? We’ve got a few tips and tricks to share.
TRY THINGS: FIND THE RIGHT VIBRATOR FOR YOUR COUPLE
The world of sex toys is an embarrassment of riches. There are vibrators and dildos and butt plugs, toys for penetration and toys for clitoral stimulation. Some sex toys are marketed specifically for couples or for solo use, but the truth is that any toys can be used with a partner.
Vibrators in particular come in all shapes and sizes, and might be just the thing to spice up your sex life. Double dildos are great for mutual penetration, and any vibrators with a remote control can add a little extra fun to partner play. The best sex toys are the ones that work for you, so don’t be afraid to try different models or styles. Start by browsing our selection of vibrators for women.
USE LUBE: KEEP THINGS GOING SMOOTHLY
Sometimes, whether you’re using a vibrator during sex or not, you have to grease the wheels. Lubricants can help protect delicate skin, combat vaginal dryness and facilitate anal penetration. Just as there’s no one-size-fits-all sex toy, there isn’t one lube that works for everyone or for every situation. Here are a few things to consider when finding the right lube to pair with your vibrator during sex:
Types of lube
There are four main types of lubricant: water-based, silicone, hybrid (which means a combo of water and silicone), and oil-based. Generally, water-based lubes are most versatile and are suitable both for vaginal or anal use. You may want to check if any flavors or scents work for you and your partner, too.
Are they sex-toy safe?
In general, most silicone lubes should not be used with silicone sex toys and oil-based lubes should not be used with mechanized toys. Water-based lubes are suitable for use with sex toys. Make sure your vibrator and lube are compatible to ensure sexual health, safety and pleasure.
HAVE FUN: TAKE A PLAYFUL APPROACH
Introducing something new to your relationship, even something as small as a bullet vibrator, can feel intimidating or overwhelming. But don’t lose sight of the end goal: more pleasure for you and your partner. By taking a playful, curious approach to using a vibrator during sex, you can explore together in pursuit of new shared experiences and sensations.
Set the mood
What’s your vibe in the bedroom? Rose petals and music? Or, maybe you prefer drawn shades and lit candles, incense burning in the corner? Whatever the case may be, do your thing, get comfortable and get ready to try something new. Make sure your lube is on hand, your vibrator is charged, and start exploring.
Try different positions
Using a vibrator during sex might inspire some changes to your usual positions. It might free up a hand, allowing you to stretch and reach in ways you hadn’t dreamed of before. It might require some acrobatics and experimentation – maybe you’ll finally try scissoring (especially if you have a scissoring vibrator handy). Introducing toys during sex can flip the script, turning a top into a bottom, a bottom into a top, and it just might be that little extra something you were looking for.
Considering adding a vibrator to your relationship? Explore our vibrators for women.
