If you type "how do lesbians have sex" or "how do queer folk have sex" into Google, you will be met with over 10 million results.
What does this say about the world of queer, trans, and lesbian sex?
We believe it means that people within the LGBTQIA+ community, both single and coupled up, are more eager than ever before to explore new ways to experience pleasure and achieve sexual happiness. And here at Wet For Her, we are more than happy to oblige with our innovative range of queer and lesbian sex toys.
When it comes to answering questions such as "how do lesbians have sex?", "how do bisexuals have sex?", "how do trans people have sex?" and "how do non-binary people have sex?". . .
Obviously, there is no straightforward answer and what floats one person's boat might sink another one's boat. There's been some interesting surveys, one of which reveal that queer-on-queer intimacy results in more orgasms than hetero sex. What's queer-on-queer intimacy I hear you ask? This could be kissing, stimulating the erogenous zones, dry-humping, oral sex…Basically it's anything that sexually gets you in the mood. You might even wonder how people engage in sex without the presence of a penis. We all know that a penis doesn't guarantee sexual satisfaction, but did you know that the absence of a penis allows for more creative queer lovemaking options! You might focus more on what is pleasurable to you and your partner or experiment more by trying different things.
According to a 2015 survey where 13,000 lesbians and queer folk participated, the results revealed what you could expect when you enjoy queer sex.
What are the most common way lesbians and queer folk have sex?
There's no "common" way that couples within the LGBTQIA+ community have sex, although mutual masturbation is a good place to start in our opinion! We also believe that one of the reasons queer and lesbian sex brings more sexual satisfaction than straight sex is because individuals in the queer, lesbian, and trans community understand each other's bodies and understand what kind of stimulation will lead to orgasm. But enough about us and over to the survey results.
The survey revealed 99% of survey participants that clitoris stimulation tops their list. This is followed by oral sex at 95.2% and frottage at 79.6%. 55% of people revealed that they use a vibrator to hit the spot.
How often do queer folk and lesbians have sex?
When it comes to sexual activities, queer and lesbian couples are pretty much the same as hetero couples, meaning that each couple is different. However, according to a recent LGBTQIA+ sex survey, around 35% of queer and lesbian couples in a monogamous relationship have sex multiple times a week. This figure is lower in individuals not in a relationship, with only 12% having sex several times a week.
While there is no magic number, there are ways to increase your libido and enjoy more intimate relations with your partner. Our sex toys for queer, lesbian, trans, and non-conforming couples are specifically designed to bring you closer together and enhance romantic bonds.
Whether you choose to try a women's dildo to increase your libido or you prefer to use one of our queer strap on dildos that can be enjoyed together, our premium sex toys for queer folk promise to bring pleasure and intimacy to your relationship.
Do lesbian and queer folk use strap-ons and dildos?
The easy answer is some do and some don't. The survey revealed that 58.5% of queer and lesbian couples use strap-ons on a regular basis and 55% used dildos on a regular basis.
We know that for some, strap-ons can offer further possibilities for pleasure for those who enjoy it. If you've tried and didn't get much from it, it might be worth trying again with Wet For Her's crafted with queer couples in mind. If you are going to give it a go, why not try a Spareparts Hardwear harness? As this company is run by women and queer folk, they understand what the LGBTQIA+ community wants in their harnesses. When using a strap-on, you might want to switch roles and take turns in being the giver and the receiver.
If dildos are more your thing, you're in luck because there is lots of choice! There are different shapes and sizes available to suit you and your lovemaking style. Whatever you choose, we recommend a dildo that is 100% silicone.
Does one person have to be the dominant?
No! If you're bringing a strap-on into your lovemaking, one may adopt the role of making love to the other. Who adopts this role will depend on your mood at the time!
What about scissoring?
According to the survey, 34% of queer and lesbian couples engage in scissoring on a regular basis during sex.
We know some people in the LGBTQIA+ community love scissoring and some of us hate it! But it is definitely worth a try at least once to see if it's for you. The sensation of genital on genital movement can be extremely pleasurable if you're willing to put in the work. If you're thinking of exploring scissoring, you might want to try the new RockHer vibrator has been designed with scissoring in mind.
Is sex better between queer couples as they know each other bodies?
Yes and no. Yes, because many have first-hand experience of what a clitoris or vaginal orgasm is.
No, because everyone is different and just because one partner likes sex a certain way it doesn't mean another partner will like it in the same way. It is more about what turns you on rather than assuming there are set guidelines when it comes to queer sex.
How to make queer and lesbian sex more enjoyable
Rather than ask how do queer folk have sex, it is better for your sexual health to look for new ways to make queer sex more enjoyable. Whether you are keen to try anal sex, you want more oral sex, or you simply crave more genital contact, our queer and lesbian foreplay essentials can help you to relax and gain maximum pleasure from sex.
We hope we have addressed some of the questions you might have when it comes to how queer folk have sex. Hopefully we given you some new ideas of things to try to explore and experiment with to enhance your sex life. Goodness knows, we all deserve a good orgasm!
