Dildos & Sex Toys

Start by identifying the specific type of stimulation you want to target. Popular options include:

• External Pleasure: Clitoral vibrators, suction toys, and bullet vibes.
• Internal Pleasure: G-spot vibrators, prostate massagers (P-spot toys), or anal plugs.
• Dual Stimulation: Rabbit vibrators that target internal and external sweet spots simultaneously.

Determine how the toy will fit into your shared intimacy. If you are shopping for lesbian sex toys or partner play, consider versatile options like strap-on dildos, strapless vibrators, or remote-controlled toys that allow your partner to take the reins. For solo play, focus purely on your personal comfort, size preferences, and favorite vibration patterns.

Always prioritize body-safe, nonporous sex toy materials. Medical-grade silicone, borosilicate glass, and stainless steel are hypoallergenic, easy to sanitize, and completely free of harmful phthalates. If choosing budget-friendly porous materials like TPE or TPR, always use them with a condom and clean them thoroughly.

If you are a beginner, start small. Look for toys with insertable lengths under 5 inches and a slim girth to allow your body to adjust. You can always upgrade to larger sizes or specialized shapes (like curved shafts for targeted G-spot or prostate hits) once you know what feels best.

Safest nonporous sex toy materials

Nonporous materials do not have microscopic holes, meaning they cannot trap bacteria and are 100% body-safe. The gold standards include:

• Medical-Grade Silicone: Flexible, durable, and warms up to body temperature. Note: You must never use silicone lube with silicone toys, as it will permanently dissolve the material.
• Borosilicate Glass & Stainless Steel: Hypoallergenic, completely rigid, and excellent for temperature play (can be warmed or cooled under water). They are highly recommended for G-spot, prostate, and anal stimulation.
• ABS Plastic: A smooth, rigid plastic commonly used for the hard shells of vibrating bullets and wands.

Porous materials

Porous materials have tiny microscopic pockets that can harvest bacteria over time, even after being washed. They include:

• TPE / TPR (Thermoplastic Elastomer/Rubber): Very flexible, soft, and realistic texture, but requires meticulous cleaning and drying.
• Jelly Rubber & PVC/Vinyl: Often used in cheap, entry-level novelty items. They frequently contain chemical plasticizers (phthalates) and have a strong distinct chemical odor. If you use jelly or PVC toys, it is safest to cover them with a condom during use.

Nonporous materials like medical-grade silicone, borosilicate glass, and stainless steel are vastly superior because they do not have microscopic holes. They are 100% body-safe sex toy materials that can be easily sanitized to remove all bacteria.

Conversely, porous materials (like jelly rubber, vinyl, and latex dildos) trap bodily fluids and bacteria inside invisible surface pockets. Even after a thorough wash, they can harbor microbes that lead to bacterial vaginosis (BV), yeast infections, or UTIs.

This is why Wet For Her dildos are made from high quality materials, such as 100% medical grade silicone to ensure all products are phthalate-free while providing a silky texture that is easy to clean and maintain.

Phthalates are chemical plasticizers used to make cheap plastic and vinyl sex toys soft and flexible. However, they are known endocrine disruptors—meaning they can leach into the body through sensitive mucous membranes and interfere with your hormones. High-quality brands prioritize phthalate-free sex toys to eliminate this chemical risk.

Regular sex toy cleaning prevents harmful bacteria buildup, reduces the risk of infections (like UTIs or BV), and extends the lifespan of your adult novelties.

Use a specialized antibacterial foam sex toy cleaner or mild, unscented soap and warm water. Avoid harsh chemicals, alcohol, or dish soaps, which can degrade the material and cause skin irritation.

Silicone, glass, and metal sex toys

Because silicone, glass, and stainless steel are nonporous sex toy materials, they are the easiest to sanitize:

• Wash thoroughly with warm water and soap or toy cleaner.
• Pro-tip: 100% non-vibrating silicone, glass, and metal toys can usually be boiled for 3–5 minutes for deep sterilization.

If you are new to penetration, start with an insertable length of 4 to 5 inches and a slim girth (around 1.2 to 1.4 inches in diameter). This range allows your pelvic floor muscles to relax and adjust to new sensations without causing strain or discomfort.

When browsing, look for the Size Guide and two distinct measurements listed on the product page:

• Total vs. Insertable Length: Total length includes the base or handle. Look specifically for insertable length to know exactly how much of the toy goes inside you.
• Diameter: Diameter is the width of the toy at its widest point. Girth is the circumference (the measurement all the way around). You can find the girth by multiplying the diameter by 3.14.

Using sex toys for solo play

Sex toys offer targeted stimulation that manual touching often cannot match, making it easier to reach climax and explore what feels good. Masturbation with sex toys releases endorphins, dopamine, and oxytocin, which naturally reduce stress, lower anxiety, improve sleep quality, and boost your mood.

Improve intimacy in a relationship

Incorporating adult novelties into partner play breaks up bedroom routines, introduces novelty, and fosters open communication. They are perfect for clitoral stimulation during penetration or as a dynamic part of foreplay to ensure both partners are fully aroused and satisfied.

Help to reach climax

Up to 75% of individuals with vaginas require direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm—something intercourse alone often cannot provide. High-frequency vibrators and air-suction toys offer consistent, intense stimulation that bridges the "orgasm gap" and makes climax much more accessible.

Adult toys are beneficial for sexual health

Regular sexual arousal and climax increase blood flow to the pelvic region, which helps keep vaginal tissues healthy and elastic. For those going through menopause, utilizing vibrators can help maintain tissue health and alleviate discomfort associated with vaginal dryness or tightness.

Take it slow and prioritize comfort. Choose a beginner-friendly small dildo or vibrator to prevent discomfort. Ensure you are relaxed and already experiencing some natural sexual arousal before attempting insertion—the goal is pleasure, not pain.

The correct way to apply lube

Coat the tip and shaft of your toy generously with a body-safe sex toy lubricant, smoothing it down with your hands. If you feel any friction or dryness during play, don’t hesitate to reapply. Remember: Always match your lube to your toy's material (use water-based lube for silicone toys).

Start with vaginal or G-spot stimulation

1. Warm up externally: Gently rub the toy along your labia and clitoris first to increase blood flow and arousal.
2. Insert gradually: Gently part your labia and insert the toy one inch at a time.
3. Target the G-spot: Once comfortable, angle and thrust the toy against the front wall of the vagina (closest to your belly button) to stimulate the G-spot.

Safety rules for anal sex toy play

• Use the right toy: Only use toys specifically designed for anal penetration that feature a wide, flared base.
• Prep the area: Apply extra lubricant and stimulate the outside of the anus and perineum first to help the muscles relax.
• Hygiene rule: Never transfer a toy directly from the anus to the vagina without washing it thoroughly first, as this introduces harmful bacteria that cause infections.

Clean after using your sex toy

Always sanitize your device right away. Proper sex toy care involves washing the toy immediately after use with warm water and an antibacterial sex toy cleaner to prevent bacteria buildup and maintain the toy's lifespan.

While your body produces natural lubrication when aroused, using a dedicated sex toy lubricant is highly recommended every single time. Lube reduces friction, enhances physical sensations, prevents microscopic tears in sensitive skin, and allows the toy to glide effortlessly for maximum pleasure.

Let’s just say it – lube and sex toys are like peanut butter and jelly. You can never have “too much” lube, especially when trying out a new dildo.

Yes. Choosing the right sex toy size and shape depends entirely on your anatomy, experience level, and how you plan to use it:

• Size: Toys typically range from 4 to 18 inches. Beginners usually find smaller options more comfortable, while larger sizes require practice. See our Beginner’s Guide to find your perfect fit.
• Shape: Options include curved, straight, or double-ended sex toys. Curved designs are optimized for targeted internal stimulation (like G-spot or P-spot), while straight designs offer classic, versatile play.

Finding the best fit comes down to personal comfort and experimentation.

A multi-functional dildo maximizes versatility, value, and pleasure by combining multiple features into a single toy. Unlike a standard model, it adapts to different types of solo or partner play:

• Suction Cup Dildos: Hands-free design allows you to attach the toy to any flat, smooth surface for realistic riding, thrusting, or use with a dildo harness.
• Vibrating Dildos: Integrated motors provide targeted vibratory stimulation, which increases blood flow, heightens sensitivity, and helps achieve orgasm faster.

Choosing a multi-speed or multi-feature toy allows you to customize your experience and transition seamlessly between different styles of play.

A high-quality, body-safe dildo comes down to choosing the right material, size, and features for your body. Whether you are shopping for solo play or partner intimacy, focus on these essential factors:

• Body-Safe Materials: Always choose non-porous materials like medical-grade silicone, glass, or metal. These are hypoallergenic, completely sanitary, and easy to sterilize.
• Safety Warning: Avoid cheap dildos made from PVC, jelly, or rubber. These materials are porous, trap bacteria, and often contain toxic chemicals like phthalates.
• The Right Size and Shape: If you are a beginner, it is best to start small and work your way up. Shape determines the type of stimulation—curved designs target internal sweet spots, while realistic or straight designs offer classic containment.
• Enhanced Capabilities: Consider added features to match your goals. A vibrating dildo provides powerful clitoral or internal stimulation, while a flared base ensures safety during anal play and compatibility with a dildo harness.

Yes. At Wet For Her, our pleasure products are anatomically and ergonomically designed specifically for women, sapphic couples, and the LGBTQ+ community.

While generic adult stores sell mass-market products, our sex toys are engineered by experts who understand the nuances of queer intimacy. Choosing an intentionally designed lesbian dildo changes your sexual experience in a few key ways:

• Ergonomic for Shared Intimacy: Our toys are sculpted to optimize angles, flexibility, and comfort during partner play, making them the perfect fit for a dildo harness or double-ended use.
• Dual Stimulation: Many of our designs focus heavily on simultaneous clitoral and internal stimulation, aligning precisely with female anatomy and response patterns.
• Community-Tested Quality: We invest heavily in community testing and product development to ensure every item delivers safe, reliable, and maximum pleasure.

If you need personalized recommendations or tips on how to choose your first toy, our team is always here to help you navigate your sexual wellness journey.

We understand that everyone has unique desires, which is why we curate an extensive collection of premium lesbian dildos tailored specifically for the LGBTQ+ community. From beginner-friendly options to advanced pleasure products, our selection features diverse shapes, sizes, textures, and vibrant colors to match your exact preferences:

• Strap-On Dildos: Engineered for comfortable, deep penetration and perfect compatibility with a strap-on harness or specialized silicone O-ring underwear.
• Double-Ended Dildos: Designed with optimal flexibility and dual-sided lengths to pleasure you and your partner simultaneously during shared intimacy.
• Vibrating Dildos: Equipped with powerful, quiet motors to deliver targeted clitoral stimulation and internal vibrations that heighten sensitivity.
• Realistic Dildos: Sculpted to mimic realistic anatomy, complete with lifelike textures, defined veins, and suction-cup bases for hands-free riding.
• Pride Collections: Don't miss our limited-edition rainbow pride dildos, crafted from body-safe materials that celebrate queer joy without compromising on pleasure.

Every toy in our shop is manufactured with high-quality, body-safe materials to guarantee a safe, hygienic, and unforgettable sexual wellness experience.

While you can enjoy our toys completely on their own, pairing them with the right accessories maximizes their versatility and comfort. We offer a curated collection of lesbian sex toys and performance accessories designed to elevate your intimate experiences:

• Dildo Harnesses & Underwear: Enjoy hands-free vaginal or anal penetration with our high-quality strap-on harnesses. Designed for all-day comfort and stability, our collection features various underwear styles compatible with standard dildos and double-ended dildos.
• Body-Safe Lubricants: To ensure a smooth, comfortable experience, always pair your toy with a premium lubricant. We offer formulas suitable for sensitive skin, including specialized water-based lubes (essential for medical-grade silicone toys) and vegan-friendly lubricants.
• Anal Play & Butt Plugs: Expand your options with our premium butt plugs. They are designed for safe, gradual exploration and can be enjoyed solo or used simultaneously with any of our dildos for intense dual stimulation.