Horny Hangover: making the most of the morning after for lesbian couples

Horny after a night of drinking? Sexperts say a horny hangover is totally normal. Keep reading to learn more about hangover horniness and how to leverage it for your – and your partner’s – sexual advantage. 

UNDERSTANDING THE HORNY HANGOVER

Your head is pounding…but so is your libido… It’s the morning after a big alcohol-fueled night out on the town and sex is on your mind. This is the phenomenon known as the horny hangover or hangover horniness. It doesn’t happen for everyone or for every hangover but it’s certainly a reality for some. Let’s dive into the science…and the benefits of the horny hangover.

Feel-good hormones…or stress release

Some say that hangover horniness may indicate that you’re craving the dopamine release that can come from good sex and orgasms. It may also be the body’s way of seeking stress relief to help ease the general unpleasantness of a hangover. Either way, your body knows what it wants and is craving some kind of comfort or relief.

The sexy science behind it all

The extra horniness that accompanies a hangover might have to do with the way the body metabolizes or breaks down alcohol. Alcohol acts as a depressant, slowing down our neural activity, disrupting our hormone balance and dulling some of our physical sensations. Once our body starts to break down the alcohol, the levels of alcohol in our body decline. This may lead to a sort of rebound effect. The rebound effect is the body’s reaction as it tries to rebalance itself as the depressive effects of alcohol start to wear off. This can lead to increased arousal and sensitivity, which is where hangover horniness comes into play. 

HORNY HANGOVER LESBIAN SEX TIPS

Don’t let hangxiety get you down. Leverage a horny hangover for your pleasure, and for hers. If you wake up in the morning groggy and…well, turned on, this can be a sexy blessing in disguise. Read on for our favorite sex tips for horny hungover lesbian couples.

First of all…don’t text your ex

We’ve all been there, horny, lonely and looking for connection. But do not, and we repeat, do not make the mistake of channeling your horny hangover to text your ex. You are much better off, and will probably more likely get off, if you try masturbating. If you are solo in bed, this is a perfect moment to turn to your trusty sex toy. Rather than sending an ill-fated DM to your ex, put your hands to better use and fire up your vibrator.

Indulge your lazy side

If you and your partner are on the same horny hangover page…having sex may very well be on the menu. Though this is probably not the best moment to try out any new, ambitious positions. Indulge your laziness and your horniness at the same time by opting for a lazy sex position. This might be a spooning position or one where you are both on your sides but facing each other. And consider taking things slow. 

Strap-ons save the day

If your fine motor skills are a little shaky thanks to your hangover…it’s sex toys to the rescue. Did you know that strap-ons are the most popular sex toys for lesbian and LGBTQ+ couples? If you didn't, you do now. And a horny hangover is the absolute perfect occasion to put a strap-on to good use. Strap-ons come in shapes and sizes to suit all desires and can allow for a mostly hands-free sexual experience. Vibrating dildos can be just the thing to bring a little extra strength and rhythm for a moment when you are turned on but tired.

TURN YOUR HORNY HANGOVER INTO A SEXY EXPERIENCE

When hungover, you may not be feeling or looking your best, but don’t let that get into the way of a super satisfying sexual experience. By leaning into the softer, slower side of sex, and using any help you can get (hello sex toys), set yourself up for pleasure and release. Here are a few other basics to keep in mind for hangover hanky panky:

Hydrate, hydrate, hydrate

After a night of drinking, you will likely be dehydrated. Alcohol is a diuretic which leads to dehydration. Drinking water helps replenish lost fluids and supports essential bodily functions and it’s super important after drinking…and certainly before engaging in physical activity like sex. So make sure to drink lots of water before engaging in sex. 

It’s all about communication

Before and during sex, make sure to keep channels of communication open between you and your partner. Drinking alcohol and being hungover can impact mood and sensitivity – you might be emotionally or physically sensitive – so make sure you’re connecting about what feels good and what needs to be adjusted. Your chemistry and physical needs may be different than usual. Focus on pleasure, for both of you. 

 Set your expectations

When it comes to hungover sex, you might want to set your expectations appropriately. You may not perform your best when hungover, but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy the experience. Don’t expect flawless performance from yourself or your partner. Focus on connection, take it slow and enjoy the ride. Orgasms may come more slowly, and maybe they won’t come at all. But as sex educator Emily Nagoski likes to remind us, it’s not about orgasms, it’s about pleasure. In her words, “pleasure is the measure.” So don’t worry about measuring up to sober sexual experiences.

Post-sex tips for lesbian couples

Once you’re done and orgasms have been had by all (or not), just take it easy. Continue to hydrate, rest and communicate about how you’re feeling. Relish the moment and the pleasure that you’ve just shared. Take the time to connect with your partner, basking in the lazy afterglow of your mutually beneficial horny hangover. Maybe it’s the perfect time to order in some food, or to browse new sex toys, or to do a little bit of both.